Is love is still in the air?

25 02 2009

Valentines day had passed.  Now everyone is busy at work and trying to earn again the money they used on that special day.  But, is it worth it?  Did everything ended up to something that you planned and dreamed of?  Did the air filled with love when you were together on that night? on that whole day of 14th?

Isn’t it nice to see couples holding hands while walking, eating on fine restaurants with music filled with love.  Then you can really say that “love is in the air”.  But on the other side of it, there are some couples who break and are fighting on that very special day for lovers.  For reasons that all relationships had encountered.  Maybe they still tried to fix it and be sweet like the other  couples, but just can’t be.  Anyway, you can’t hide hatred and all the emotions hanging on your head and pretend like you’re ok when it’s really not.  That maybe the idea of Valentines date just worsen the fight.

And now couples of days had passed, does the  sweet couples of Valentines day are still sweet? or become sweeter?  How does Valentines affect your relationship?  Does it makes you more open to each other, and made your relationship stronger?  Because some remained dull.  No matter how hard they try to save the relationship, it just can’t, maybe it’s better to cut it off, before it create more damage to both of them.  That maybe they can still be friends, maybe they’ll be better of friends than lovers.  Anyway, some ex-couples become friends, just as long as they had a good break up, no more hard feelings, and everything had a nice closure.

Love should not always be just on the 14th of February, or on 25th of December as they say.  Though those are special days, isn’t it better if we feel it all through the year,  and have no feeling of being so caught by the special holiday where lovers should be sweet all over and gifts given away to special someones?  Though those days just happen once a year, sometimes it’s all frustating that someone or rather everyone is expecting you of something which you cannot give.  Maybe it’s something that we just have to live with, because that’s the way it is, and we can’t do nothing to change it.  Just maybe next time, be more honest to each other, so there will be no risk of losing something.


It’s better to have love and lost…

19 02 2009

As they say, “Experience is the best teacher”.  It makes us stronger and cautious  in doing things, and on how we handle our problems.  And sometimes, it will make you a better person, and will make you aware that life is not as easy as you thought.  You cannot say how it feels until experienced it.   Though there are things which are better not to experience (i.e.  drugs), but because of curiosity and maybe leaning on the quote itself, many had tried, trying and are planning to try it.. in spite of full endorsement against it.

But love is what most of us are very cautious about.  Many had failed, but are still trying.. some wants to try it again, but becomes more careful about it.. and some don’t want to try it anymore, because of fear and hatred.  But “it’s better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all”.  Love is the most wonderful, yet the most dreadful feeling of all.  There’s a feeling of contentment when you’re with the person you love, and the wanting of time to move slow or better stop when you’re together.  But because there’s no such thing as “perfect” in this world, misunderstandings and the so called “third party” comes in a relationship, and if not handled well or if it’s really impossible to fix.. it ends to break up and hatred.

We should not be afraid of falling in love because it will just come and go.  If it did not worked on the first, then try on the second, and on the third, until you find the right one for you.  We will never know the true value of life if we don’t fall in love.  Because, admit it or not, you feel empty inside though you don’t show it outside.  There’s a destined person for each of us, we just have to be patient and open for the possibilities.

From Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Your first heartbreak

9 01 2009

I came out with the idea of making my first post when I visited this relationship forum site. There was a thread who started by a girl asking “who first broke your heart?”. The replies were not that many but are just enough for me to have an idea on how bad a first heartbreak is.

There is this one guy whom her girlfriend left him for about eight months ago, and he’s still having a hard time to move on and enjoy life. At least he found that forum to meet new friends and have had a nice chat with them, and that he really helps.

Another poster said that she was eleven when she had her first heartbreak. She really likes this guy or boy at that moment. He hid her school bag at the bus stop, then she just found out that this boy just kissed another girl after school. That’s really a heartbreak for a young girl.

First heartbreaks may leave a deep cut on one’s heart.  Sometimes it makes people not to love again, because they’re afraid that it might happen again. Another heartbreak, another wound to heal, another moving on that usually happens for a long time.

But we should not stop loving, for this makes the world go round. Love is the best gift God gave to us and continually giving. Everyone has had they’re heartbreaks, but if there’s some who haven’t experienced it, you’re so lucky. Notice this, if you had had your heart broken, it will take time before you enter another commitment because you’re choosing the better person for you well. And you don’t to end up to another relationship that will just end to another heartbreak.

Experiences make us grow stronger and intelligent on dealing with love. And one day we’ll just realized that we’re laughing at it and remembers how innocent we were before.

*If you want to know what forum am I talking about, here’s the link click!