CopyCat Blogger

17 04 2009

Last April 13, 2009, I posted my latest blog entry “How do you survive a long distance relationship”.  And last April 16, 2009, I caught this blogger who copied my blog entry word by word!  I would appreciate it if she just copied some lines, but the whole article?  So I posted a comment on “her” blog post, and I told her everything she needs to know.

I visited her blog again to see if she deleted it or put a link towards my blog, and edit the date (cause she pretended that she posted it on March 18, 2009).  I know that anyone can change the date settings of their own blogs.  Now she want it to come out like I copied her?  And yes, she edited “her”, she changed the title and same content.  And she closed the comment part.. so she read my comment and was guilty about it.  I don’t know how to contact her anymore, so I decided to blow everything here.. and I wish she visit again.

Anyway, here’s “her” blog post.. her blog was just 2-3 days old (based on her 2 other blog posts.. and I don’t know if those are her originals):

http://marianejay.blog.friendster.com/2009/03/how-do-you-survive-a-long-distance-relationship/

I will survive!!!

How do i survive a long distance relationship ? Many says it’s impossible.  There are others who says it’s possible, but it’s very difficult to handle.  A lot of sacrifices are needed to make it work, and you should double or triple your trust to your partner.  They say, the longer times you’re not together, the weaker your relationship gets.  And the longer times you have not seen each other, the lesser interest or lesser attraction you’ll feel towards your long distance partner.  So the end point is, separation (a permanent separation of a temporarily separated relationship).  It’s sad, but most long distance relationships, ends like that.

But what did they do, what have they done to their relationships to make it work that they’re now together and living happily with their partners?  What sacrifices did they do to achieve what they have now?

The answers are in your own relationship.  See how much you can give.  How much you can sacrifice for it, and how strong your feelings are for each other.  If you can trust your partner more than you trust him/her before. If you hear anything about anyone who’s linking to your partner, never confront him/her without concrete evidences.  Remember, trust is what you can only hang on to, and you will not enter into this kind of relationship if you don’t trust this person.  If you love each other enough, and if you respect each other deeply, and if you both understand each others’ situation, it’s not impossible to get through long distance relationship.  Anyway, you’re not always away from each other.

Communication is very important in every relationship.  If your communication to each other is not fading, or if you have constant time for each other.  Maybe, you can get through it too, and if you believe that you will be together too soon.  No matter how soon that is, what’ s important is, you agreed to each other that you’ll be strong for your relationship, and that the time will come that you’ll be together again.

Sacrifices are also necessary in a long distance relationship.  If you’re willing to give up some important things or persons or job for your partner, to be able to get near him/her, do it.  Because in life, you cannot have it all, you have to choose what you think will make you happier.  Between career and love, but you don’t have to choose between your relationship and your family and friends.. because you can still see them once in a while and be with your partner away from them.  What more can you ask for if you’re with someone you’ve been longing to be with?

Long distance relationship only works to couples who have deep love, trust, understanding and respect to their partners.  But a relationship who possesses those traits, but do not have enough patience at all, will not survive it.  Patience is a virtue.. always. I trust, respect & love you ‘tart ( jay ) with all my heart & soul!!!!

I miss you so much!!!!!!!

See, she at least added a sentence in the end and dedicated to her tart jay.. ridiculous!

The good thing is, wordpress has Blog Stats so we bloggers in wordpress could monitor visitors on our blogs.. that’s where I caught her.  And to prove that she visited my blog, I copied (print screen) that page to show her that I got evidence.. and she cannot just copy everything she see in the web.

blog stats- as of April 16, 09

blog stats- as of April 16, 09

I honestly don’t want to do this, but I asked her in a nice way.. and she still did it, and even made it worse.  Feels like she’s testing me.  I don’t know what replies am I going to get by doing this.. but I have to do something.. and it’s all I can think of.