A child cries a lot when his favorite toy was broken. But after he cried, he will probably do something to fix it, or will ask for someone preferably his mom to help him fix it. We all know that a mother will do everything for her child, so she will do everything just to fix it. But once it was fixed, It won’t be the same again. Them damage will still be there, and the child scrutinizing his repaired toy will se the markings and will cry for it again. With his innocence and his mother’s will to stop from crying, the only solution she could think of is to buy another toy. But is that what the child wants?
Not to compare parents from a toy, but they both complete a child’s life: to be happy, and to be nurtured.
When divorce enters into the family, it affects everyone.. and the most affected are the children. If parents could only know what their children think:
“Can I do something, anything to change my parents’ minds?”
“What will happen to us, to our family, if this happens?”
“Is everything’s still gonna be okay, like what they always say?”
maybe they’ll begin to think, if they made the right decision.
Can a child make these questions up in his mind, knowing that he’s only a child? He might also think he’s the cause of all this problems, and begin to think that something’s wrong with him.
As a parent, you are obliged to explain to your child and make him understand that he’s not the reason why considered divorce as solution to your problems. Maybe as a child, he will not fully understand the situations, but just to hear from you that he’s still loved by his parents is a big impact for him, though he will still choose his parents to be together.
And no matter what you do and convince yourself that the life of your child will not change; the effects of divorce will still be there. And if you or both of you decided to get married again, to give him a new family.. for him, he only have a pair of parents, and they cannot be replaced.
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