Easy Ways on How to Save A Marriage

1 06 2009

Many people are having a hard time saving their marriages, well, we could not blame them.. it’s really hard.  Saving a marriage from divorce is one of the hardest part of marriage.  But saving a marriage, if you and your partner still have love for each other and you want to save your marriage.. is just easy.. though, not fast.  It will take time, you need to work on it.. both of you in the relationship, should work on it.

As we all know, marriage is a working relationship.  Communication should always be there.  If you didn’t had that constant communication on your marriage, then now is the right time to do it.  Talk and listen.  If you think there is something that you should talk about in your relationship, talk about it.  A very nice approach will end to a very healthy and nice talk.  Treat your partner as your friend (with benefits?), talk to him/her like your talking to your friend.. like you’re just hanging out and enjoying each others’ company.

Always make a way to spend some quality time with your partner.  Being busy at work or at home, doing all the household chores or taking care of your children, is not an excuse to not to give time to your partner.  Spending times every week, once a week is enough to communicate and check each other.  Rekindle your relationship by setting up dates.  It doesn’t have to an expensive, a simple dinner date, a walk to a park, or going to your special places before, when you were just starting your relationship.

Leaving a romantic note, saying I Love You in your most romantic way.. who will not blush like a teenager if you heard it from your love one?  Anyone would.. wouldn’t you?

Marriage counseling is a big help too.  Although we sometimes hear that it doesn’t work, it actually depends on how you will take it.  If you trust your marriage counselor, and will obey or listen to every advice he/she will give you.. he/she could help you save your marriage.  Saving your marriage mostly depends on you.  On how you will work on it, on how eager you are, and on how much love you have for your love partner.

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How to win your love back

4 05 2009

How can you win back the love that has gone?  First, you have to figure out what went wrong with your relationship.

What did you do?

What did you not do?

What did you over do?

What did you slightly do?

When you cheated, or hurt your partner physically or emotionally, that’s a huge reason to break up with you.  You don’t expect your partner to still hang there and pretend like nothing happened, right?  But sometimes, we do something and we’re not aware that we have been hurting our love ones, or we don’t care that they’re hurting (that’s bad).  And now, we want them back.. well, good luck to that.  We have to learn to accept our mistakes, and do our best not to do those mistakes again.

Does the things you did not do could affect your relationship with your partner?  Yes, especially when it is something that your partner had been asking you, and you did not even cared to try, or you’re that busy you have no extra time for that.  It is not about that special requests from your partner, these things could be time, a quality time together.  Spending quality times with your partner is very important.  Lack of time could make your partner think that he/she’s not important to you anymore.  And it could be one of the reasons why you broke up.. now you have an idea how to win your partner back.. at least.

Whatever that’s overly done is not right.  It’s like overdosing yourself from a drug, it could kill you, it could give you hallucinations, and it’s not healthy.  In a relationship, if you’re always giving everything, and always willing to do everything for your partner, and is not receiving the same from them, but it’s still okay with you, it’s not healthy either.  That only fits to a parent-child relationship, and if this goes on.. your partner will be so dependent on you.  There are some people who likes them to be treated like that, but not all wants to be a king or queen in the hearts of their love ones.  Yes, he/she have to be no.1 in your heat, but your partner to be the king or queen.. then your the slave?  Because it’s you who gives more love, then you become the slave, who gives whatever your highness asks.. or even not asked.

The thing is, you should also love youself.  Maybe your partner is one of the people who don’t want to be treated like a queen or a king.  Maybe your partner wants to give their best to reciprocate that love, but yours is so overwhelming that they cannot give themselves the way you do.  So maybe, that’s one of the reasons why he/she left you.  Love your partner, but don’t forget to love yourself.

Now, if there’s overdosing.. there’s also lack of love.  It could also be not giving much time to your partner, or you simply don’t know how to show your love for them.  But if you don’t love your partner that much before, and now you’re so very much into him/her, but it’s too late.. now is the right time to change.

It’s not too late to make a change, show your ex that you’ve changed.  Show him/her that you’re worth the second chance, or third maybe.. but don’t push yourself, just be friendly and be confident (which are the second and third tips).